Collaborative Practice Marin

Every once in a while, there are clients who say they want to see how the divorce goes before they decide if they want to hire divorce coaches. In theory, this makes great sense, but in practice, this is a recipe for disaster. This is like having a bad headache and waiting hours before taking a painkiller. The headache may be too intense at that point and not even respond to the painkiller. Our experience has shown that when the coaches are called in after the tensions have escalated, the divorcing couple is so distraught, hurt or distrustful of one another that the Collaborative modality may not withstand the pressure. The coaches then have the task of trying to clean up when the problems have become unmanageable, to get the legal process back on track. When coaches are brought in late in the process and the case continues to deteriorate, the clients’ skepticism about coaches can then seem well-founded. Coaches can’t stop a case from going south late in the game any more easily than brakes can stop a train that has built up speed and momentum. These cases might have had a very different outcome if coaches had been used from the start.


About Collaborative Practice Marin

CPM is a community of legal, mental health and financial professionals working together to create client-centered processes for resolving conflict.  We are located in Marin County, California. 

Why Collaborative Divorce?

“Divorce is never easy but the collaborative process made mine bearable.  I had more control and therefore less stress and anxiety because I had an active role.”

~JF

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